Consider how many of the following strategies may have slipped into your own approach to life:
- Don't appreciate your achievements. Instead, regard them as things that anyone could do or which somehow occurred through no serious effort of your own.
- Keep raising the bar for satisfaction instead of celebrating when goals are achieved.
- Chastise yourself for not being perfect.
- Compare yourself to others and believe that other people are much happier, more self-confident, and have fewer problems.
- Expect others to behave and think as you would behave and think.
- Expect others to know when you are upset. Regard their failure to notice as a sign that they are insensitive and uncaring.
- Link your success to achieving a particular job title or income level.
- Periodically re-open old wounds.
- Always be on the alert for any insults or slights.
- Give greater weight to criticism than to praise.
- Expect others to be angels and then condemn them when they fall short.
- Believe that anyone who has more took it from someone else.
- Worry about your failure to control things that are beyond your ability to control.
- Worry about things that are unlikely to happen.
- Always be wary of being hustled.
- Focus on getting others to understand you instead of first understanding others.
- Be harder on yourself that you would be on similarly situated others.
- Associate with people who have similar negative habits so you can reinforce one another's feelings.
- Tell yourself every day that you are an impostor who talks a good game but who really doesn't deserve to be in your job.
- Keep careful score on who gets what.
- Expect the world to be fair and always define fairness as you getting more rather than you getting less.
- Cultivate an attitude of entitlement.
- Define wants as needs and have plenty of wants.
- Seldom show gratitude.
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